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Today I got a nice little nugget in my inbox, and thought – yes! This definitely should be shared.

How many times have you spoken, and realized that what was heard, was not at all what you said? Communication is part art and part science and must be practiced. There are four main goals: to inform, to request, to persuade, and to build relationships.

If we don’t master the art of communication, we may waste our time doing pointless activities that amount to, well, pointless activity.

For example: is your social networking NOT working? Has your sphere of influence and reach expanded? Chances are you are not building the type of relationships that benefit from your influence. Perhaps you are talking to the wrong people. So, what can do?

Take a look at this list and identify one or two items that fit your objectives for communicating (informing, requesting, influencing, or building relationships). Try them right away and be sure to pop back on this page to share your comments and stories. I want to hear them!

Article Resource: 99 Ways to Improve Your Communication [http://www.getinfrontblogging.com/communication/99-ways-to-improve-your-communication/]

Additional resource: Lynne Waymon founded an organization called: Contacts Count. Check out some of the resources she offers for effectively connecting and building relationships (communicating) at live events.

Find them at http://www.contactscount.com

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–Relationships matter more!

I don’t know about you, but the hype over having large communities might be a little over rated.  That is if you look at sheer numbers to determine influence.

Here’s what I mean, if you have recently received a “Facebook Friend” request, then ask yourself:

1) How does this person know me?

2) Why do they want to connect?

3) Do I really care?

4) What will I give back?

5) Have I tossed the ping-pong ball back by visiting them and giving a meaningful “shout-out” or acknowledged their presence?

It’s so easy to accept a request, only later to find out that you’ve been fooled by a spammer! Or worse, that you’ve become a “taker” and not a giver.

That applies to Twitter too!  Really, any community that you commit to joining expects something of you–engagement.  Will you “bring it” when you join?

Here are five tips to being a “giver” and not a taker while social networking:

1) Listen first.  Try get a sense for what your audience likes.  If it doesn’t work for you, swap out a friend or two to improve the quality of your network and relationships.

2) Think about what they need.  Give them both what they want and need.  You’ll only know this if you’ve grown your community in a targeted way.

3) Mix it up a little by making the shift from “marketer” to “problem solver”.  Stop pushing your stuff and pull a little to figure out a solution you can respond with.

4) Stop looking for your angle.  You know what I mean…you’ve got a favor “you” need.  STOP!  Put agendas aside and just “be here now”.

5) If you feel you have nothing of value to say, then be okay with contributing a “ditto” via RT (re-tweet).  Imitation is still the greatest form of flattery. Oh, and saying nothing at all might be the wise course too.

Ultimately, never forget that social networks are just platforms, and that we must humanize the tools.  A case in point, not long ago I noticed that Starbucks had a post on Twitter for a talent opportunity. Notice the human touch after I contributed a response…

Saw this while online

Thought of who in my network would fit.

They provided a human response. Notice the initials.

At the end of the day, people care about, and want to do business with people that the know, like and trust.  So be more than a “friend” or a “follower” taking up space on someones profile – be engaged and watch your influence shoot through the roof!

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